Conflict vs Bullying
The Difference between Conflict and Bullying
Conflict occurs when there has been hurt feelings due to a miscommunication/misinterpretation (or no communication) in a friendship (very common).
Bullying occurs when a situation is one sided and unfair and someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening or leaving someone out on purpose.
- Mean because feelings are hurt
- Power and Control in a friendship
- May need help to work it out
- Positive result
- Use your "I" messages (4step plan)
- Solution Shield
- NOT friends
- Mean just because the MEAN
- Power and Control
- Can’t work it out
- One sided
Both Bullying and Conflict involve anger, shock, fear, confusion and overall bad feelings. Therefore, it can be difficult for students to determine what has happened and then fix it. They may need an adult’s help.
If your child has been bullied:
- Listen to what your child reports and get as many details as you can. Explain that you can help most when you have as much information as possible. Ask the when, where, who and what happened before and after.
- Let your child's teachers know anytime an incident of possible bullying occurs. You may also complete the bully report form. All reports of bullying are investigated by our administrative team (principals).
- The counselor will work with your child to develop a plan of action with appropriate strategies and responses to bullying.
- An administrator may speak to your student in order to get all the details about the bullying incident.
- If needed, the counselor will work with bystanders to help increase positive peer pressure to eliminate bullying.