BULLY INTERVENTION/PREVENTION – PARENT AWARENESS
Definition: Bullying is any repeated action intended to harm someone in a position of less power. Bullying has been classified into various categories, including but not limited to: physical bullying, verbal bullying, relational bullying and cyber-bullying.
How can I support my child if he or she is the target of bullying behavior?
In the event of major issues such as physical assault,call the police for assistance immediately. If bullying behaviors occur outside of school, the school can provide limited intervention, but DO contact an administrator or counselor so the campus is aware of potential issues on campus.If you believe your child is the target of bullying behaviors at school, it is essential that you report that to an administrator or counselor and request to fill out the form as completely as possible so that the school can intervene. In addition to disciplinary plans described in the Student Code of Conduct, campuses counselors provide responsive services to help students deal with crisis and guidance for problem solving and decision making. The student resource officer on campus may be another resource to help address safety issues.
What if my child is in an abusive friendship with someone who hurts him or her?
Both girls and boys sometimes get into friendships with someone who uses that relationship as a way of exerting control over one another. That imbalance of power can sometimes lead to relational aggression or dating violence—an extreme type of bullying behavior. The best way for young people to protect themselves from hurtful and unhealthy relationships is to move on to other friendships, knowing that a real friend does not hurt you. Keeping communications open with your child is the most important thing that a parent.
What should my child do if he or she is the target of bullying behavior at school?Fighting is never a good way to solve problems. The best deterrent is adult authority. Students who feel threatened at school should immediately seek help from teachers, coaches, counselors, and/or the student resource officer. Teach your children that reporting school violence or bullying is not “tattling.” Bystanders play an important role in bullying because students who observe and do not report bullying contribute to the existence of bullying by providing an audience. Help your child understand that despite what we see and hear in the media, victimization is not entertainment. Please partner with us to help our children learn effective ways of social interaction that demonstrates respect for one another at home, in the community, and in school.Conflict VS. BullyingIt is important to understand the difference between conflicts and bullying. Below are some distinctions:
For more information about bullying and what you can do to prevent it, please see the following:
- Conflict is a normal part if interpersonal relationships and an integral part of childhood and learning: bullying is not.
- At times, middle schoolers DO engage in behaviors that can appear to be bullying (derogatory comments, gossip, note-writing, etc.); however, the presence these behavior alone do not automatically constitute a bully-target dynamic.